I have these days where I, basically as a foreigner, am wondering what I am to say about very religious statements opposed to the liberal posts. It sometimes feels as if I am watching a tennis match and I don't feel qualified to say a thing about that. I observe, nothing more.
Earlier this evening I read an article about (female) friendships and instead of virtue, friendship based on community contributions was valued as the most precious ones. It is a community that binds, in a way. I am not sure if it is badly translated though. But, even within a friendship you can differ in opinions and respect the other for that. Before you can get that far, you also have to respect yourself and be at peace with your views before you can also respect the other fully. This does mean that also for a friendship you have to work on you. It can happen that something of a friend brings out something in you that upsets you. Such an issue, if it surfaces, can be a learning point for both. But it takes courage to look at yourself and asking yourself: why does this upset me? Why do I make a point from it, what do I think to see in my friend and what does that say about me. I think dealing and raising a child like mine has been a huge learning curve for me.
If the friendship is solid, your friend can help you with dealing and overcoming this. I do believe that even online friendships can also help you grow as a person. I have met other moms with autistic kids online and they have become good friends. It feels good to be talking to someone who just doesn't need much to understand you with such few words.
This being said... your comments and views, your own personal things and conversations you had with your therapist also has helped me: to grow as a person and get a better understanding. To also look and appreciate you as a person, the challenges you do face while you walk your own path... it has been a mirror to understand my child and at some length my own husband. Thank you for that (and my apologies for replying so late).
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Date: 2012-08-03 10:47 pm (UTC)Earlier this evening I read an article about (female) friendships and instead of virtue, friendship based on community contributions was valued as the most precious ones. It is a community that binds, in a way. I am not sure if it is badly translated though. But, even within a friendship you can differ in opinions and respect the other for that. Before you can get that far, you also have to respect yourself and be at peace with your views before you can also respect the other fully. This does mean that also for a friendship you have to work on you. It can happen that something of a friend brings out something in you that upsets you. Such an issue, if it surfaces, can be a learning point for both. But it takes courage to look at yourself and asking yourself: why does this upset me? Why do I make a point from it, what do I think to see in my friend and what does that say about me. I think dealing and raising a child like mine has been a huge learning curve for me.
If the friendship is solid, your friend can help you with dealing and overcoming this. I do believe that even online friendships can also help you grow as a person. I have met other moms with autistic kids online and they have become good friends. It feels good to be talking to someone who just doesn't need much to understand you with such few words.
This being said... your comments and views, your own personal things and conversations you had with your therapist also has helped me: to grow as a person and get a better understanding. To also look and appreciate you as a person, the challenges you do face while you walk your own path... it has been a mirror to understand my child and at some length my own husband. Thank you for that (and my apologies for replying so late).